Sunday, October 23, 2011

My Modern Man Experience

I am back to give you more insight about this Modern Man.

So I had been on a few dates and discovered that I was constantly attracting and dating these modern men.  It even got to the point where I was questioning if my standards were too high.  Was I just going to have to settle for the man that make me feel like less of a woman?  It is like they want me to share the role of man with them... I don't think so.

Where do we draw the line on the role of a man and the role of a women in the dating game?  We can argue equality for all, but again, I am an old fashioned type of gal when it comes to dating.  I believe that chivalry is alive and well... maybe rare but not yet extinct. 

I went out on a first date with a guy (we will call him John).  John paid for the date which consisted of a kite and some frozen yogurt.  But during the date John made it clear that he expects a women to pick up the bill every now and then.  Being new to this way of thinking about dating, I just went with it.  We never had a second date

I went out with Tony.  He paid for the first 2 dates (but I had to pick up the tip on the 2nd date).  I paid for the next 2 dates.  Now I have to say that I felt a little uncomfortable with paying, but again, I was thinking that is the way it is now.  Also, I had to hear about him paying for the first 2 irritating.
I really can't stand to hear about what you chose to do for me (I didn't ask you to do; you chose to do it). Anyhoo... I digress...

They both explained that they normally date older women, and the women had no problem taking care of the bill and buying them things.  That begs the question:  Is it the women who created these "Modern" Men?

It is not all about the time I'll talk about the chase.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

The Background

I have been divorced for a little over a year now.  I was with my x-husband for a little over 10 years.  Boy was I up for a culture shock after being out of the dating game for so long.  I have been doing a little bit of dating since my divorce, and I have discovered this "Modern Man".  Let me define the "Modern Man."  He goes by these rules:

  • He prefers to be "chased".
  • He will NOT spend money on dates.  If he does, you will definitely hear about it later.
  • He MAY open a door or two when you are out.
  • He will never bring you flowers on a date.
  • ....Well, I'm sure you can add to this list. And I do encourage you to do so.
I'm  sorry but I am just an old fashioned type of gal that prefers an old fashioned gentleman.  He goes by these rules:
  • He loves the chase.
  • He will be offended if a women tries to pay for ANYTHING.
  • He ALWAYS opens the doors.
  • He brings flowers or candy or something thoughtful to start the date.
  • He epitomizes chivalry.
Maybe I have been out of the game too long, but I am willing to wait on my old fashioned gentleman because I don't want that Modern Man.